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He's always been my son: a mother's story about raising her transgender son

He's always been my son: a mother's story about raising her transgender son

Barkin, Janna, author

This true story by a family about raising their transgender son is both a captivating read and an invaluable support source for parents facing similar issues. A warm, insightful portrait of a family that includes tips on helping young transgender people navigate their transition, it will support, educate, and inspire

Paperback, Book. English.
Published London: Jessica Kingsley Publishers, 2017
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  • Cheltenham – Earliest copy due back 21st March

    Barcode Shelfmark Loan type Status
    9935488675 Family & Relationships 306.768 Adult Non-Fiction Due back 21st March


Statement of responsibility: Janna Barkin
ISBN: 1785927477, 9781785927478
Physical Description: 208 pages : illustrations (black and white) ; 20 cm
Subject: Family and Relationships.; Barkin, Janna.; Barkin, Janna Family.; Transgender children.; Mothers and sons.


  1. Amaya's Blessing. Introduction. What Does That Mean? A Glossary for This Book. Navigation Guide. Section One: The Before Years. 1. Dream Baby. 2. She Had One Job. 3. Amaya's Name. 4. To Snip or Not to Snip? (By Gabriel Barkin, Amaya's Father). 5. Notes from a Naming Ceremony. 6. The Power of Three. Section Two: The Early Years. 7. Amazing (by Gabriel Barkin, Amaya's Father). 8. Girls Wear Pink, Boys Wear Blue (Or Not). 9. One of the Boys (by Tracey Klapow, a very dear friend, and "Aunt Tracey" to our children). 10. When is a Hat Not Just a Hat? 11. Best Practices Evolve (by Lisa Treadway, a very dear friend, and "Aunt Lisa" to our children). 12. Walking Through Cement (by Shawn Masia, Amaya's Uncle). 13. I Wish to Be a Grampa. 14. Spike! 15. One in 200. 16. I Found a Friend in You. 17. Tom Boy. Section Three: The Tween Years. 18. Chick Dude. 19. "Faggots" and "Trannies" (by Gabriel Barkin, Amaya's Father). 20. Two Moms. 21. "I am Unique Because..." (written by Amaya when he was ten). 22. Heroes (by Gabriel Barkin, Amaya's Father). 23. Period Stop. 24. Holding Together While Falling Apart. 25. Halloween Scream. 26. Watching and Waiting. 27. Why Can't My Child Just Make Up Their Mind? Section Four: Transition Years. 28. Facebook Told Me My Daughter Was My Son. 29. Bound in So Many Ways. 30. The Doctor Dilemma. 31. Finding Cristin. 32. I'll Go With You. 33. High Hopes for High School. 34. Texas. 35. Coming Out is a Process. 36. A Letter to Our Family. 37. The Girls (by Gabriel Barkin, Amaya's Father). 38. "Is He Changing His Name?" 39. Top Surgery. 40. Witness (by Michael Krashes, A dear family friend). 41. Looking for Reflections. 42. Puberty, Again?! 43. Your Papers, Please! 44. The Lay of the Land: Current Medical Practices for Transgender Youth. 45. Big Sister, Little Brother (by Emily Barkin, Amaya's sister)
  2. . Section Five: Complete. 46. The Talk (by Gabriel Barkin, Amaya's Father). 47. Complete, For Now: An Interview with the BBC. 48. Rock On! (by Weston Walls, a very dear family friend). 49. There He Goes! 50. Who's "She"?! 51. College Unbound. 52. Reflections: A Letter to My Beloved (by Linda Masia, Amaya's Maternal Grandmother). 53. My Amaya (by Elaine Barkin, Amaya's Paternal Grandmother). Section Six: Now (and Beyond). 54. From Ally to Activist. 55. A Blog Was Born. 56. He's So Lucky. 57. Who's the Lucky One? (by Gabriel Barkin, Amaya's Father). 58. Without Understanding (by Travis Owen, Amaya's Brother, 11 years older). 59. He's Always Been a Teacher. 60. Mistakes, I've Made a Few. 61. Shifted (by KB, a very dear friend, and "Aunt KB" to our children). 62. There He Goes, For Real! Postscript: I Am Worried, I am Hopeful. Resources for Transgender People and their Families. Endnotes.