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Must you go?: my life with Harold Pinter

Must you go?: my life with Harold Pinter

Fraser, Antonia

A unique testimony to modern literature's most celebrated and enduring marriage

Hardback, Book. English.
Published Weidenfeld & Nicolson, 2010
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Statement of responsibility: Antonia Fraser
ISBN: 0297859714, 9780297859710
Physical Description: 328p : ill. (chiefly col.), ports. (chiefly col.) ; 240x165mm. : 640gm.
Subject: Authors, English Diaries 20th century.; Authors' spouses Diaries Great Britain.; Women authors, English Diaries 20th century.

Author note

Antonia Fraser is the author of many widely acclaimed historical works and she has also written five highly praised books which focus on women in history. Antonia Fraser was made CBE in 1999, and awarded the NORTON MEDLICOTT MEDAL by the Historical Association in 2000


Antonia Fraser's poignant memoir Must You Go? begins in 1975 when, aged 42, she meets the playwright with 'bright black eyes' at a dinner party, sparking a 33-year love affair
HARPER'S BAZAAR||Antonia Fraser writes a moving portrait of her relationship with late husband Harold Pinter
VOGUE||But the book is in the end not so much a literary memoir as the simplest of love stories. As such, it's captivating
EVENING STANDARD||As the memoir, Must You Go?, movingly proves, Pinter's love of women finally reached fulfilment in a marriage of true minds
WATERSTONES BOOKS QUARTERLY||It is neither authobiography nor biography but a love story, romantic, poignant and very funny, illuminating her husband's character and creativity
THE TIMES||Antonia Fraser's memoir of her life with Harold Pinter, Must You Go?, is extraordinary by any standards. Based on the diaries she kept during her 33-year relationship with the dramatist, it is simultaneously a love story, an intimate portrait of a great writer and an exercise in self-revelation
THE GUARDIAN||This book - full of funny and tender things - satisfies on more than one level. It is an intimate account of the life and habits of a major artist; it is a pencil sketch of British high society in the second half of the 20th century; and it is, more than either of these things, and much more unusually, a wonderfully full description of the deep pleasures and comforts of married love
SPECTATOR||Addictive and affecting as an account of a 33-year-old love affair, with walk-on parts for Vaclav Havel, Salman Rushdie, The Princess of Wales and many others, it is memorable for its intimate vignettes
COUNTRY LIFE||After 33 years, he [Pinter] remained as besotted with Antonia Fraser as he had always been. He would write her poems, send her flowers, buy her presents...Here, astonishingly, was the Mr Darcy of Campden Hill Square: forbidding and combustible on the outside, gentle and tender at home
EVENING STANDARD||Pinter's first diagnosis with cancer of the oesophagus came on 13 December 2001, soon after that public "Fall" of 11 September. Fraser traces the "steps downwards" through the eight ensuing years of sporadic anguish and relief with exemplary clarity and courage....Fraser keeps her gaze steady and her heart open
THE INDEPENDENT||It is written with palpable love, warmth, affection and a huge sense of loss for a man regarded by many as Britain's greatest living playwright before his death on Christmas Eve 2008...Must You Go? is essentially a heart-warming love story
DAILY TELEGRAPH||As superior gossip about literary, theatrical and political stars it is entertaining and often very funny. As a testament to a long, loving marriage it is simply touching
SUNDAY TELEGRAPH||Finally this book works, just as it appears their lives worked, as the most touching and enduring of love stories...The ending, brutal and unsentimentally presented yet filled with a Tolstoyan directness of feeling, is almost unbearably moving. The whole of this lovely book fills you with gratitude that happenstance can, once in while, not screw up and find the right girl for the right boy
FINANCIAL TIMES||This engaging memoir succeeds on two fronts. First it brings to light the private world of Harold Pinter, one of our greatest playwrights, but rather more importantly, it tells the remarkable love story between the writer and his wife Antonia Fraser...In the coming years there will be many biographies and assessments of this writer's life but none, I believe, will match the gentle intimacy of Antonia Fraser's memoir
SUNDAY EXPRESS||Few people have the emotional capacity for a grand passion, or the talent for expressing it, as she does. Lady Antonia is a narrative historian and she has spent the year since Pinter died writing out their love story
DAILY MAIL||' "No flowers on my grave," he hissed after seeing dead cornflowers on Larkin's. His wishes have been honoured in this book, which is less flowery than most elegies have a right to be, one year on. He had already approved the diary entries he'd read as "a great record of - us".
GUARDIAN||Fraser often writes beautifully, in carefully weighted sentences charged with a mischievous wit and, finally, a heart-snagging tenderness
METRO||a poignant, touching and romantic tale that will illuminate a little-understood side of Pinter
NEWS OF THE WORLD||Following several high-profile extracts, Antonia Fraser's memoir of her life with Nobel Prize-winning playwright Harold Pinter stormed the review pages this week
THE BOOKSELLER||This book is a love story and a very moving one....There is a good test of a biography of memoir. Does it leave you thinking, I would like to have known this person? I would very much like to have known Harold Pinter - and that's not something I had thought before reading this book
LITERARY REVIEW||A rollicking read
IRISH EXAMINER||For anyone interested in Harold Pinter, this is required reading
THE TABLET||The final section of Must You Go? is the strongest and most affecting, an account of Pinter's ill health, his 75th-birthday celebratins in Dublin, his Nobel Prize, his struggle to make his political voice heard and Fraser's gradual realisation that her time with Pinter is running out. This is a moving account of carefully crafted and cherished love, a theme that is, in itself, unusual
IRISH TIMES||Must You Go? is wholeheartedly recommended to anybody who loves or hates Harold Pinter, has an interest in theatre or just can't resist a good old-fashioned love story
BRITISH THEATRE GUIDE WEBSITE||'This is one of the most 'un-put-downable' books I have read in ages'
CATHOLIC TIMES||'Those who woul have liked to explore the bewitching love story that their union surely holds have to be content with occasinal details, such as Pinter's meltingly sweet focus on Fraser as he asks her, during that final ambulance ride to his death, "What are your plans - generally?".
TIMES LITERARY SUPPLEMENT||As ever, Fraser writes beautifully. Her book is an uplifting, warm and moving tribute to her life with Harold, a man who often described himself as 'the luckiest man in the world', and a companion who is sorely missed
GOOD BOOK GUIDE||Never sentimental, she enlivens every page of this affectionate memoir with humour, wit and minute observation
CATHOLIC HERALD||She provides considerable insight into the magnetic intellectual attraction she and Pinter exerted on each other, their respective creative processes, and the colourful characters they mixed with in London high society
HOT PRESS (Ireland)||Harold Pinter was one of Hackney's literary illuminati and this honest account of his big mouth and kind heart from his widow dispels some of the myths about him and allows us to consider his legacy without being deafened by his angry voice
THE INDEPENDENT||As superior gossip about literary, theatrical and political stars, it is entertaining and often very funny. As a testament to a long, loving marriage it is simply touching
LADY MARGARET HALL - THE BROWN BOOK||Her final chapters are searingly honest and often heart wrenching to read
TRIBUNE||This book, then, is at once a highly readable account of a love story between two celebrities that, incidentally, 'drops' enough famous names to satisfy any gourmet gossip and a valuable source for understanding the work of one of the giants of twentieth century literature
CONTEMPORARY REVIEW||it reads like an extended eulogy to a lost lover
THE STAGE||Lady Antonia's memoir, based on the diary she has kept since 1968, is an addictive and affecting account of her 33-year love affair with the playwright who defined his age
COUNTRY LIFE||THE GUARDIAN||The mutual fascination of Harold and Antonia never wavered; this luscious, name-dropping book celebrates the strange compatibility that lasted until Pinter's death in 2008